Work relationships are a funny thing. If you have a regular jobyou likely spend more hours of the day with your colleagues than you do your other friends, flatmates, or even your spouse. When you tally up all that time, and the fact it takes on average hours to become best friends with someone, it's no surprise many people form close bonds with their workmates.
If you do — great! It can be comforting to have a loved one around for moral support when you're feeling stressed, or to help you to celebrate when you're on top of the world. But how do you avoid co-workers gossiping about your relationship, or accusing you of favoritism?
Office romance is here to stay. We spoke to four colleagues turned couples on how the rules of dating are evolving in the MeToo era. Shahnawaz Shafi, 32, and Urvashi Handa, 30, dated for over four years before tying the knot last year. Both worked for the same company but in different verticals.
Particularly in the era of MeToo, it can be nerve-wracking to even consider approaching a coworker or boss, or subordinate in a romantic capacity. A lot of companies have policies about intra-office datingincluding strongly discouraging it. But the fact is, attraction happens.
After all, there is no better way to spice up the daily grind. But imagine the tension at the water-cooler should things go wrong, not to mention the escalation in office politics. Plus, you could even lose your job.
Should you date a coworker? If you still want to move forward, research shows that your intentions matter. Many companies prohibit employees from dating coworkers, vendors, customers, or suppliers, or require specific disclosures, so be sure to investigate before you start a relationship.
Before you date a co-worker, make sure the relationship is worth the risk. In fact, some employees report that dating a co-worker can go a long way in increasing job satisfaction. But, if your relationships tend to have a dramatic and contentious ending, you probably want to steer clear of dating a co-worker. You should exercise extra caution when deciding whether to get involved with someone at your office, Valbrune says.
A survey found that 15 per cent of people met their spouse at work, but experts say office romances can be risky. Natasha kissed Matt at a corporate holiday party, and shortly after, they began dating. Natasha is one of many people who has dated someone they work with.
The workplace is a perfectly wonderful place to meet a person and start a romantic relationship. You have to be professional about it, of course. You can't play footsie under the conference room table and annoy your co-workers, but of course you can date a co-worker, and there's no good reason not to. At work, you get to see how a person thinks and acts.