When it comes to dating for re-singled a. Thoughts of entering into a serious relationship or even remarriage gives many re-singled parents cause for pause if not outright alarm because we've all heard the stories about evil stepparents since we were little thank you, Cinderella! But that's not how it has to be!
Science and nature tell us that as women we are programmed to nurture. We are instinctually motherly and family oriented. Somewhere between science and our innate instincts life falls into place, usually interjecting itself in the most untimely manner.
I was joining a family. On our wedding day we became one of more than 5. As any parent can attest, raising a family is challenging.
This can be a true blessing: you meet someone great and they have kids, or you have kids, or you both do and when you unite, it greatly can expand the love in your life. Here, Christian author Samantha Keller lets us in on how she and her second husband Tim discovered the 5 secrets of successful blended families. Two weeks after we returned from our honeymoon, my new husband stopped me outside the front door.
We all had certain expectations heading into stepfamily life. Some of our expectations were driven by our culture and some by our upbringing. Some were driven by believing that we could never repeat what happened in our last relationship.
Becoming a blended family is a huge adjustment. Make plans to continue dating one another or schedule an occasional weekend getaway so that you can have some time alone. Your kids may have very mixed feelings about living together.
The learning curve is steep when you merge two families together. If marriage has a blind spot, re marriage with offspring on one or both sides, is like driving straight into the sun. You will have a much more difficult time putting your marriage first.
At different times I tried to follow the different counsel. I swore off dating altogether, I attempted courting which felt a lot like datingand finally I considered the online option. While I was trying to figure it all out, I met the man of my dreams at a ministry conference, and we eventually married.
An intact nuclear family starts with a marriage and then adds children to the mix. But in a blended family, the children are there at the beginning; they pre-date the marriage. This brings a much different dynamic to the table.
As part of our Blended Family Friday series, each week we spotlight a different stepfamily to learn how they successfully blended their two families. Our hope is that by telling their stories, we'll bring you closer to blended family bliss in your own life! Today we speak to Craig, a father of three who's celebrating some big news: He's newly engaged to Lisa, a mom who has three kids of her own.